I think you're conflating her individually with the organisation. XR protests aren't about people not rinsing plates.
TBH I've found a lot of the XR protests quite perplexing. The stopping trains running really seems like a daft thing to do as it stopped loads of people using it who ended up in taxis or on buses which are way worse and caused congestion and james. Seemed like they were disadvantaging people who were doing more to help. Even stopping traffic short term doesn't work. Just leads to congestion and extended journeys as people have to take diversions.
It does come across at times as people who just want to be a pain in the arse.
XRs belief is that government action needs to be taken and that the most effective way of getting government to take action is direct disruptive protest. They base this on research of social movements that have been effective and generally they revolve around direct action in capital cities that are disruptive enough to force governments to take action.
They aren’t telling people to do anything, they believe it’s a waste of time (they’re probably right on that).
Meanwhile fossil fuel companies have realised they can’t legitimately pretend climate change isn’t happening ot it’s not humans fault any more so they are focusing efforts on convincing people to do pointless shit like not rinsing plates or eating less meat so that real actions such as banning ICE cars, reducing heating requirements in buildings and legislating on carbon output aren’t taken.
itsabatch and friends are useful idiots who are playing along. You’ll have to ask them why.
XR is also a flat structure with a set of guidelines (focus on direct action being the main one), but each group is independent and basically does what they want.