Brighton Sky Blue
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Yet most are or have been in long term relationships.
I would suggest that most of us on here have no friends.
I'm simply too lazy to have good friends. I'm not a great friend to anyone. Of course if they needed me I'd be there, but I honestly can't be arsed. I know so many people from school, playing football, pool, poker, watching the city, work, mates from the pub and I like lots of them, always have fun in most of those groups, but genuine real mates barely any and that's down to me not really wanting to particularly go anywhere or do anything. Unless it's watching the City, I struggle to find anything interesting these days. A night out seems like a chore when I could be sat in front of the box or having a pointless argument on a faceless phone or PC.I would suggest that most of us on here have no friends.
Nice to know I am not the only one without friends.
Used to be five of us all go up the City, ST's. They all dropped off one by one.
Then I had all my old school mates, but they went by the wayside, and then my mates from my theatre group, but one then moved to London, one to Stratford and the others, I have no idea anymore.
I turned my back on social media too, which alienated me further. Stopped using FB and Twitter. Only really came on here and if course it's all strangers for the most part.
So, now I have one best mate, but haven't seen him now for about 5 years, though we still message each other all the time. And then another female friend, who is lovely, but always too busy and haven't seen her for about 4 years.
Then I have my wife, but we don't see eye to eye on anything. She hates sport, doesn't like any of the bands I like apart from Depeche Mode. She doesn't like any of the same films or TV either and has also never embraced the UK or our way of life, so doesn't celebrate Christmas.
Luckily, I have my daughter and we like all the same things. However, since she turned 15 she has done the teenage thing, alienated herself and just stays in her room all the time.
Actually, I would say my best friend now is someone I have met on a pen friend site. We talk several times a day and seem to think alike, so that is a great salvation.
Time for a group hug?
Nice to know I am not the only one without friends.
Used to be five of us all go up the City, ST's. They all dropped off one by one.
Then I had all my old school mates, but they went by the wayside, and then my mates from my theatre group, but one then moved to London, one to Stratford and the others, I have no idea anymore.
I turned my back on social media too, which alienated me further. Stopped using FB and Twitter. Only really came on here and if course it's all strangers for the most part.
So, now I have one best mate, but haven't seen him now for about 5 years, though we still message each other all the time. And then another female friend, who is lovely, but always too busy and haven't seen her for about 4 years.
Then I have my wife, but we don't see eye to eye on anything. She hates sport, doesn't like any of the bands I like apart from Depeche Mode. She doesn't like any of the same films or TV either and has also never embraced the UK or our way of life, so doesn't celebrate Christmas.
Luckily, I have my daughter and we like all the same things. However, since she turned 15 she has done the teenage thing, alienated herself and just stays in her room all the time.
Actually, I would say my best friend now is someone I have met on a pen friend site. We talk several times a day and seem to think alike, so that is a great salvation.
Time for a group hug?
It's nuts reading all this. I have work mates and have the occasional night out with them but thats about it. I moved around a lot when I was a kid so don't have any mates from school and I often have shitty moments of feeling really lonely. Long term partner (now wife) and shes my best mate but I do often long for a tight knit group of mates.
Felt a bit of a tit when I was arranging our wedding. We were going to get married in the UK originally and obviously, tradition says you need a best man...the only people I could have asked were people I'd known about 3 years (i'm 35) which I found genuinely embarrassing. In the end, this being one reason we buggered off to NYC and did it there.
Sorry to hijack your thread...just read it and was like "oh...not just me then" Anxiety is huge with me. Would love the confidence to say hello to someone in the pub or say hello to fellow City fans in the pub pre game but inevitably I sweat profusely and isolate myself as far away as possible! Good example of this is at New Street when I arrive for a game. I never get a taxi up to the ground because I get mad anxiety that someone will inevitably say "want to share?" As we're obviously going the same place...An ideal opportunity to maybe make a pal to go the game with but I walk instead.
Anxiety is shit and genuinely hinders me every day. Someone once described anxiety to someone who didnt have it as "You know that heart racing moment you realise you're on yoir way to an important job interview/train/bus or whatever and you've realised you're late and then you've lost your keys and you're franticially looking for them shitting yourself on what MIGHT happen...that, over the smallest of things"
With the friends thing its always "What if they dont like me?" Or "Theyll probably think im some weirdo" all from nothing but I can't seem to get past them regardless.
Yet most are or have been in long term relationships.
I’ve got a decent group of mates. I’ve always said from day one that wether I’m in a long term relationship or not I won’t desert my mates. They have said the same. I don’t want to be in the same boat as a older blokes I know who deserted mates and now have none. Seems so daft to me.
I’ve got a decent group of mates. I’ve always said from day one that wether I’m in a long term relationship or not I won’t desert my mates. They have said the same. I don’t want to be in the same boat as a older blokes I know who deserted mates and now have none. Seems so daft to me.
Had one mate who we were friends with for about 6 years. Met his wife on a night out. Nobody saw him again. Then wedding invites pop up 5 years later.
No mate.
Had one mate who we were friends with for about 6 years. Met his wife on a night out. Nobody saw him again. Then wedding invites pop up 5 years later.
No mate.
God knows.That must be really difficult with the situation with your wife. How do you manage that?
In our group 3 of us have long term partners (one just engaged), me included. They join on nights out though lately the third bloke has been doing pretty much what you describe. Moved in with her quickly now we hardly see him.
To be fair back then was purely just meet up get pissed and go clubbing. Now we meet up with our kids and wives as well occasionally and out wives are friends as well now etc. Alongside the usual sesh.
We’re somewhere between. Used to always go for freshly chiselled burgers at the Colly until someone said ‘alright sir’. Cue hasty exit.
God knows.
She's a nice person, but we have zero in common, so I go to concerts with my daughter, watch the likes of The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Fargo, Taskmaster etc with her and we hang out together too at places like Fargo. My wife likes none of the above.
“Not tonight sir”
don't mean this nastily, but why did you marry her in the first place? Did you ever have anything in common?God knows.
She's a nice person, but we have zero in common, so I go to concerts with my daughter, watch the likes of The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Fargo, Taskmaster etc with her and we hang out together too at places like Fargo. My wife likes none of the above.
God knows.
She's a nice person, but we have zero in common, so I go to concerts with my daughter, watch the likes of The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Fargo, Taskmaster etc with her and we hang out together too at places like Fargo. My wife likes none of the above.
How are you with exchanges? Are you willing to do something she likes in exchange for her doing something you like, and (most importantly!) everybody's happy doing that?God knows.
She's a nice person, but we have zero in common, so I go to concerts with my daughter, watch the likes of The Walking Dead, Sherlock, Fargo, Taskmaster etc with her and we hang out together too at places like Fargo. My wife likes none of the above.
Repeating myself, but I just don’t get it. Wife’s dad, no mates. My grandad, no mates, to be fair he’s 89 but he’s never had mates. That’s just two off the top of my head. All self inflicted as soon as there was a sniff of fanny. Ha ha.
Repeating myself, but I just don’t get it. Wife’s dad, no mates. My grandad, no mates, to be fair he’s 89 but he’s never had mates. That’s just two off the top of my head. All self inflicted as soon as there was a sniff of fanny. Ha ha.
They're all 89 too?Just like my mates Simon, Will and Jay.
They're all 89 too?
Repeating myself, but I just don’t get it. Wife’s dad, no mates. My grandad, no mates, to be fair he’s 89 but he’s never had mates. That’s just two off the top of my head. All self inflicted as soon as there was a sniff of fanny. Ha ha.
Controlling spouses who won't let the man out? I've seen it with a few friends and my brother is borderline caged up the poor fucker.
Now there is an easy way out of that which is leave the woman but that's easier said than done, especially when kids are involved.
Yeah true. Surely you’d spot that sort of behaviour early on though and get out of it? No time for that. I wouldn’t dream of telling my wife what to do, same for her. Mutual respect and all that.
whiff of beaver
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