Moff
Well-Known Member
Probably sensible.
Been married 13years together for seventeen. Some of your sweeping generalisations in your earlier post have a pang of truth
Yeah 16 years is definitely long. It sounds like you went about things the right way. I'm in a relationship now and she always talks about engagement and wants marriage but I'm very content with just living our lives together and seeing how things go.
I'll not be rushed into such a massive decision. Is that heartless or just sensible?
Married Red Pill: Sexual strategy for men in marriage or long term relationships • /r/marriedredpillProbably sensible.
Been married 13years together for seventeen. Some of your sweeping generalisations in your earlier post have a pang of truth
This place is getting a bit soppy nowadays! Give it until June and there will be pillow parties being arranged instead of fights at the Jimmy Hill Statue :emoji_kissing_heart:
Ps. I am shocked at skybluedan's comments, I was expecting a "finger her sister" bit of advice!
Yeah 16 years is definitely long. It sounds like you went about things the right way. I'm in a relationship now and she always talks about engagement and wants marriage but I'm very content with just living our lives together and seeing how things go.
I'll not be rushed into such a massive decision. Is that heartless or just sensible?
The woman will think you are heartless but you know that you are being very sensible.Yeah 16 years is definitely long. It sounds like you went about things the right way. I'm in a relationship now and she always talks about engagement and wants marriage but I'm very content with just living our lives together and seeing how things go.
I'll not be rushed into such a massive decision. Is that heartless or just sensible?
And also at letting things stew.Women are world class at hiding crazy.
Left a few women because of the same. And when they start the argument they have been planning for a while what they are going to say. And they only want certain answers. You can't talk sense to them because all they want is them certain answers. Anything else tips them over the edge.And also at letting things stew.
You can say and say again, please talk to me if there is anything bothering you, but they don't.
They store any grievance up and store it up and store it up and let it brew and let it brew and then suddenly out of nowhere everything explodes and erupts into a full blown rant and go at you.
Happened a number of times with a number of different girlfriends and I know it's not me, it's always over something so minor that they let become something major.
Yes, you're right about the pre-planned speech and they have already decided that they are not going to accept any excuse you have whatsoever.Left a few women because of the same. And when they start the argument they have been planning for a while what they are going to say. And they only want certain answers. You can't talk sense to them because all they want is them certain answers. Anything else tips them over the edge.
Settled for a redhead in the end. She says what she thinks. Then all forgotten about. Everything is OK once your ears stop ringing.
Steady on chaps. I think the sexes both have their share of crazies.
Sympathy to anyone enduring a break up but in the many couples I know who have split there really was no difference between the male v female reasonableness stakes.
Well it looks like I'm going to have to lawyer up, already going back on agreements, wants the house, etc, etc. Really hoped we could be adult about this. Clearly there's no feeling there from her, I've got to toughen up because clearly if I go in in good faith I'll just get screwed over. Gutted. Proper gutted.
As my ex would say: "Women are crazy and men are stupid".
Sorry to say but sounds like friends and family have been speaking to her. Just be careful what you do or say because if it gets dirty every little thing will be used against you.Well it looks like I'm going to have to lawyer up, already going back on agreements, wants the house, etc, etc. Really hoped we could be adult about this. Clearly there's no feeling there from her, I've got to toughen up because clearly if I go in in good faith I'll just get screwed over. Gutted. Proper gutted.
As my ex would say: "Women are crazy and men are stupid".
Can she not buy you out?
I think keeping the romance going after you have kids is the secret to marriage, but it requires effort from both sides.
But I also think people just naturally grow in different directions over a lifetime.
I know you are not a stupid man but the pressure of these situations can do funny things to people, never commit to anything in regard to finances, not even verbally (you never know if someone might be recording conversations that could be used against you at a later date) gather as much proof as you can regarding any money you have spent/invested that she has not done likewise, yet has been of benefit to her. Also, and I am not saying this is the case, but don't take anything you are being told on face value, look for outside influences, could there be another person involved? having any evidence of this could be very beneficial to you when it comes to any negotiations down the road, document everything. All the best.She wants either half my inheritance (despite me already putting 60% of it into paying off her/our debt last year) or the house. I'm going to look into where I stand legally.
A very good idea, by the sounds of it your wife has already been thinking about what she can get out of any settlement and I would advise you to start thinking about number one, you are not a second class citizen (even though divorce lawyers will try and make you feel like one) and you have not worked hard all of your life just to have that taken away from you at a whim.Yeah I'm going to go through my accounts with a fine tooth comb so I know exactly what I've paid over what period.
I don't know what the score is nowadays, but previously there was a deal considered by many as possibly the best, so as to move on.
IE giving you the best option of truly moving on.
Depending on your viewpoint, releasing the house entirely over to the spouse.
From there, no liability and IIRC, no maintenance.
Thus free to rebuild from that point.
Very true but it's more about rebuilding for yourself free from continuing (double) commitments.But then if he has chucked loads of money into the house, it's kind of hard to just hand it over.
Let her have the house every time. Houses are an asset eventually but a liability whilst you're paying the mortgage and a money pit if anything goes wrong.She wants either half my inheritance (despite me already putting 60% of it into paying off her/our debt last year) or the house. I'm going to look into where I stand legally.
Let her have the house every time. Houses are an asset eventually but a liability whilst you're paying the mortgage and a money pit if anything goes wrong.
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