What Will You Leave Behind ?

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  1. bringbackrattles

    bringbackrattles Well-Known Member

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    As we hear of the passing of Tom Petty, on the radio fellow musicians have said he's left behind his great music, and this is a great legacy to leave to his family and friends and fans. How true is that. But it got me thinking what I'll leave behind ? It won't be money as I've got none, but I've got a good relationship with my son and sister, and may soon be reunited with my other estranged son. So that's reassuring to me. This isn't meant to be morbid, but life is fragile isn't it ? So I'll hand it over to all on here, what will you leave behind ? And I don't mean bills !
     
  2. clint van damme

    clint van damme Well-Known Member

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    In the words of the streets:

    I came to this world with nothing and I'll leave with nothing but love, everything else is just borrowed!
    doesn't really answer your question though B!

    My family, hopefully we'll all stay gone good terms until I peg it!
    Hopefully I'll be able to leave them a few bob each, (won't be a fortune by any stretch of the imagination), though the government will probably have that off me to pay some one to wipe away my dribble and change my nappy in my twilight years!
     
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    bringbackrattles Well-Known Member

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    I'm glad I'm friends with my son and sister as there have been some wobbles along the way. My son can have my vinyl collection, there's a few bob in there !
     
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    clint van damme Well-Known Member

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    I'm sure he'll appreciate that, bit of history in there. Won't be the same in the future, don't think anyone will be bequeathing their MP3s!
     
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    Hopefully I'll have a lasting impression on my daughter and that she'll flourish in life and beyond in part because of me (or in spite of me lol), but financially a fortune. Alive I'm skint, but I have a healthy pension pot, a house, life insurance and if I die whilst still working here I have a huge death in service benefit. My wife / daughter would be loaded ... which certainly makes me feel like I'm in a vulnerable position! :-)
     
  6. bringbackrattles

    bringbackrattles Well-Known Member

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    When my dad passed away he left me and my sister to pay off his bills,he gave up paying them. He didn't do it on purpose he just never gave it much thought. Different generation ?
     
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    Haven't really thought about it but hopefully the best start possible for my daughter and a comfortable rest of life. I'm not planning to go just yet though and ideally when she is grown up.
     
  8. rob9872

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    I thought debts died with you? Anything can come our of your estate if you leave one, but if you have nothing (and assuming no spouse/partner) I thought they were written off in law? Not 100% perhaps someone who is savvy on those things can clarify, but fairly sure I've heard that before.
     
  9. Otis

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    I have written a whole stack of stuff for my daughter over the years. Hope it fills her with happy memories for many years to come and is something she can cherish and share with her own children and then on down the line.
     
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    bringbackrattles Well-Known Member

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    When he died we still had to pay water/gas bills etc.They were all friendly at first then quickly turned nasty. I was shocked at their attitude. This was in 2001 so maybe they've changed a bit ?
     
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    As others have said, hopefully my sons will be well in to their middle age & be happy & content with whatever they're doing with their lives.........

    ....but sometimes....in my darker moments, of which I can never seem to escape completely, I cannot help but feel Larkin had a point....

    They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
    They may not mean to, but they do.
    They fill you with the faults they had
    And add some extra, just for you.

    But they were fucked up in their turn
    By fools in old-style hats and coats,
    Who half the time were soppy-stern
    And half at one another’s throats.

    Man hands on misery to man.
    It deepens like a coastal shelf.
    Get out as early as you can,
    And don’t have any kids yourself.
     
  12. bringbackrattles

    bringbackrattles Well-Known Member

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    Was it Oscar Wilde who said : " All I leave behind is my genius. "
     
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    clint van damme Well-Known Member

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    I had a similar situation with my mum a couple of years ago and to be fair didn't encounter any problems. Hopefully they've learnt a bit of compassion.
     
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    A fantastic record collection.
     
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    That's appalling (and as I say, I didn't think they could either). At times of grief the last thing you need. I guess it's easy on the end of the phone or in a letter but turn up at your door and they're likely to get knocked out! :-)
     
  16. Otis

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    Don't you know it's the day of the download,Torch!!

    Always wanted to leave my collection for my daughter, but she can just conjure any song up any time on her iPhone, or Alexa.

    Not as personal as it used to be and now kids will just pick out individual songs and show little interest in albums. My daughter loves Elbow, Muse and the Foo Fighters, but doesn't know which songs are from which albums etc. She'll just pick out this song from that album and that song from this album and it all becomes a blur.

    I love my albums, because if I say I want to listen to Abbey Road, I know I am capturing the Beatles from that one tiny little moment in time. I'm not picking a song from 1964, then jumping to 1969 and the back to 1965.

    Becoming a lost art.
     
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    Me and my sister were clearing out my dads house, what to keep/lob out etc, when his phone rang. It was a landline one and my sister answered it.
    We thought it was a call from BT as we were going to get it cut off and cancel it all. But it was from his water company, the chap was really stroppy and I grabbed the phone and told him to fuck off. Twenty minutes later the same company rang again telling me to calm down. My sister then told that caller to fuck off !
    We still had to pay in the end but it felt good to vent our spleen so to speak !
     
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    I'll leave behind a trail of debt and about 20,000 CDs.
     
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    Mines better
     
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    My dad's already given me his collection of records, full of original Beatles, Stones, Led Zep, Hendrix etc.

    Not sure I want to have children myself, but only 32 so plenty of time still.
     
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    Beautiful, feeling melancholy and now choked
     
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    Memories
     
  23. torchomatic

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    Very doubtful.
     
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    I know where you're coming from JHFC, but Larkin was a miserable, over-privileged, whinging old twat in my book, and that particular poem boils my piss for various reasons.

    Here's my preferred alternative, with some rather kinder advice. At the risk of getting over-emotional I'd say that if you leave nothing else to your kids at least leave them with the idea that life should be enjoyed, and that they are loved.

    This Be The Converse (Adrian Mitchell)

    They tuck you up, your Mum and Dad,
    They read you Peter Rabbit, too.
    They give you all the treats they had
    And add some extra, just for you.

    They were tucked up when they were small,
    (Pink perfume, blue tobacco-smoke),
    By those whose kiss healed any fall,
    Whose laughter doubled any joke.

    Man hands on happiness to man.
    It deepens like a coastal shelf.
    So love your parents all you can
    And have some cheerful kids yourself.
     
  25. Gazolba

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    I'll probably leave behind lots of assets.
    I have a house, cars, and a large retirement account but I'll be wary of spending it all and outliving my money.
    You never know how long or short your life will be or how much money will be needed to see you through the remainder.
    Whatever things I leave behind that have value to me, won't have any value to my daughters, who will probably just throw everything out.
    Apart from my left over assets, I hope I leave them good memories.
     
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  26. Otis

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    I'll show you mine and then you show me yours. Then we can look down our nose at Grendel's. :)

    Adverts
    Ash
    B52's
    Basement Jaxx
    Beck
    Beatles
    Beach Boys
    The Bees
    Ben Folds Five
    Bjork
    Blondie
    Bowie
    Blur
    Buzzcocks
    Clearlake
    Clash
    Cocteau Twins
    Elvis Costello
    The Cure
    Dandy Warhols
    Deus
    De La Soul
    Devo
    Depeche Mode
    Dickies
    Donovan
    Doves
    Ian Dury
    Echo and the Bunnymen
    Eels
    Elbow
    Eminem
    Eno
    Foo Fighters
    Peter Gabriel
    Fountains of Wayne
    Fun Lovin Criminals
    Garbage
    Gorky's Zygotic Mynci
    Grandaddy
    Hard FI
    Jools Holland
    Billie Holliday
    Gilbert and Sullivan
    Human League
    Joy Division
    The Killers
    Kinks
    Kraftwerk
    John Lennon
    Low
    Madness
    Manic Street Preachers
    Massive Attack
    Mott the Hoople
    Muse
    Monkees
    Mercury Rev
    New Order
    Nirvana
    Oasis
    PJ Harvey
    Polyphonic Spree
    Portishead
    Procol Harum
    Public Enemy
    Psychedelic Furs
    Prodigy
    Queens of the Stone Age
    Ramones
    Lou Reed
    Rolling Stones
    Radiohead
    Six by Seven
    Small Faces
    Spiritualised
    Elliot Smith
    Smog
    Squeeze
    Sparks
    Specials
    Stereolab
    Stranglers
    Super Furry Animals
    Supergrass
    The The
    They Might be Giants
    T Rex
    Tricky
    Undertones
    Tom Waits
    Weezer
    Wilco
    The Who
    X Ray Spex
    XTC
    999
    10cc

    By no means a definitive list at all, but all the above artists I have multiple albums by.
     
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  27. Otis

    Otis Well-Known Member

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    No doubt I have missed a fair few there too, as I have quite a larger number of CD's and records in storage and this list is just what I have on my shelves.
     
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    999 - very underrated. Still remember my excitement when Separates came out. Big overlap there with my collection.
     
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    There are loads of great bands missing from that list. I imagine grendel has them in his....
     
  30. Otis

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    97.8% of his though are either Marillion or Fish albums.
     
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    Well fwiw I've got a large collection of both types of music:

    Country *and* Western. :)
     
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    Thank you Duffer......thats great. :emoji_thumbsup:

    FWIW, I am also no fan of Larkin.......give me Gingsberg & Stevie Smith any day.....

    ...but that Larkin poem stuck with me in my early years because my parents DID fuck me up & for many years I didn't want kids because of it.....so glad my Mrs. changed my mind for me:emoji_sunglasses:
     
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    A puff of smoke! B-)
     
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  34. Gazolba

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    Nothing by the Doors or Jefferson Airplane, and you call that a 'record collection'!
     
  35. Otis

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    As I said, that list is just of artists where I have multiple albums.

    I do have one Doors album. Don't have anything by Jefferson Airplane though.
     

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