OK let's try explaining it another way.
I am SISU. My wife is CCFC. When we first got together she was spending money like it was going out of fashion. Her income was nowhere near her outgoings. When we got together my outgoings went seriously up. But over the years I brought them under control again. I am back to having more coming in than going out. But although my wife has a decent income her outgoings can exceed this. So occasionally I have to inject money into her account.
We are still married. But I am not her and she is not me :smuggrin:
When you first saw her she was fit carefree and exciting, you got in quick and snapped her up just before she was about try speed dating. You took her to fancy restaurants and you bullshitted to her that with you she was going to live the high life with you.
Then when you realised you couldn't live up to your promises you became a crap husband controlled her spending made her shop at the pound and charity shops. Sold her prize possessions. She had an option to buy her family home but you got involved in her relationship with the owner and tried to do business your way, the hard way and screwed it up for her. The owner sold to someone else and hardly speaks to her now and barely tolerates you both.
The sparkle went out of her eye.
She was never the same person and she wishes she never met you.
However like all control freaks even though you know you are not good for her and that you can't really afford her.
Despite her getting admiring glances from other men who may be able to breath life into her again.
You can't let her go and you would rather her stay with you even if it ruins both your life's.
Rather than moving on and her flourishing again with someone else.
Hey ho at least her spending is under control now.