For me it was looking at my parents on visits and what it was doing to them, having the mother of my son finishing our relationship, saying she'd had enough, and just knowing in my head if I didn't get my act together I'd be in and out for years. My problem was I drank too much and get into fights, I wouldn't back down. So in a nutshell I sought help from a psychologist, cut down on the drinking, and had more respect for people and myself. Not easy,far from it, but I wanted a life away from violence and prison,and worked hard on achieving it.