Hey guys I have been a member for a good few years and had season tickets with my son. Not been this season due to circumstances. I just want to share that yesterday afternoon I lost my beautiful wife and soul mate, she used to come to city games when we met, we are 25 yrs married in January, she's only 47 years old and we thought she had chest infection but she had heart failure, her dad and his brother both died at the age of 47, I don't want to ruin peoples happiness at this time of year, just love those around you because you don't know what's around the corner, I'll be back to watch city next year, but if anyone has any advice on this grieving stuff please let me know because it's hard. Thank you
So sorry for your loss mate. I lost my Mrs when she was 46, 3 and a half years ago.
Not sure what to say to you on here, other than this place if you ask for it will help you so much.
They did with me and i am sure you will get the same.
P.M. me with your number if you want a chat, (i will call you back as i can call UK numbers from here for free).
To be really honest, everyone is different. A woman out here lost her husband 2 years ago and is already with someone else.
Whereas I can't even think about meeting anyone else yet.
From the moment i wake up till i fall asleep my Mrs is never far from my mind and everywhere i go things people say and do remind me of us doing the same thing.
I won't sit here and say things will get better, so many people told me that. I would not say things get better BUT they do change and you learn to live with it (sometimes even forget) but your only ever a (memory or someone else doing something that clicks in your mind) and the next thing you know it all comes back (including good memories).
It will not be an easy journey, half of you has just been ripped away and you need to find a way to not only heal that but also fill that void.
There will be times when things seem too much and you just want to blow out, guess what i did/do still too. I did/do it on here, in my local bar and even with clients. People will understand, share with them and explain your situation.
I'm only a short arse and threw tables and chairs around in my local (very hard out here to register a death and cremate for a non Spanish person), i was being run ragged when all i wanted to do was die myself or cry, they told me all the paperwork was ok and i went to my local to unwind (literaly 5 mins after they said it was all ok), 2 days before her cremation. They then called me back to say i needed yet another piece of paperwork and i just blew.
To be fair it was a friend's bar and he told me to carry on and get it out of my system, not saying you should do this but you will have times you feel angry and you will need supportive people around you.
Never bottle it up, cry if you want to, believe me it will help.
Things will always remind you of her, it's how you learn to live with it. Last night about 20 MRS Santas came into the bar i was in (i was dropping work off, not drinking) and one had the same Christmas stockings on as my Mrs used to wear, bang! i felt my insides crumble but i kept strong and got through it.
Be strong mate and always ask for help it you need it. Not just me but your friends, family etc...
don't forget you can message me if you want to talk to a stranger and i will call you straight back.
