I didn't suggest the two go hand in hand. Quite the opposite.
What I did say is that it shouldn't be an entirely family friendly experience. There should be a space for that but there should also be a space for a bit of rowdiness that doesn't cross the line.
I accept your point - part of the enjoyment for me is that slight rowdiness (though it feels increasingly like it's crossing the line of acceptableness with many behaviour), but I have a slight issue with the priority.
The priority should be making it inclusive of everyone, allowing those that want to get a bit rowdy a space to do so (i.e. Singer's Corner). How much space is allocated to that would depend on demand for it. I think if things like Safe Standing were introduced that would help differentiate, although there will be those unable to stand that still want to be in that atmosphere. It's a shame because it's not the rowdiness that is the problem, it's those that don't know when it's too far. The twats who want to snort, get absolutely pissed and try and start a fight can fuck off as far as I'm concerned as they're the ones putting a lot of people off and stopping youngsters enjoying it.
But of course we seem to have a bigger issue outside the ground afterwards which , though I think a lot of that is down to two absolutely ridiculous safety decisions:
1. The positioning of the away fans in the stadium so that there's an increased chance of home and away fans paths crossing
2. The stupid fucking fence that entices twats to goad opposition fans for a significant time and then just mixes them together once it's off the stadium footprint.