Otis
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Is that where your calls for on the pitch thuggery were first nutured and formed?
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Nick
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Nah that was Sunday league at 15 / 16
Sky Blue Harry H
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I know a City fan who is a top counsellor. One of the nicest people I've met in my life. If you want to pm me, I can try and put him in touch with you. Good luck with what you are going through and condolences.
Otis
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Nice one, Harry.
Astute
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Nice one. Keep it up.
What I found beneficial was having a puppy. He needed walking frequently. So I had to go out. People would come up to talk to me because of the puppy. Natural response in the end was to talk. Forget about your problems if only for 10 minutes. Your problems don't go away. But over time you think about them less. Eventually you spend less time thinking and a little bit of normality comes back.
It is a long process. But you will get there in the end.
Otis
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Pets are great and do make you feel better for sure.
I got cats so I didn't have to feel quite so alone. That was always the worst bit for me, coming back to an empty house every evening.
Lovely when you are greeted at the door by a cat or dog, or even a parrot.
covcity4life
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before turning to anti depressents(and they may work)
please give mindful meditation a go. i know it works and i hope it does for you too
25 mins a day for 2 weeks and i think you will feel calmer less anxious and more positive
thoughts and prayers with you
shmmeee
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Hi mate!
I’ve battled with clinical depression since I was about 12, comes in ten year cycles and gets triggered by events too. Thought I’d pass on what I’ve learned:
1) Do what works. It’s different for everyone. I’ve tried drugs to not much effect, I’ve tried guided meditation, all sorts. I’m a very rational guy and what worked for me was Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, but even then it took two or three tries at finding a therapist I got on with and who knew how to deal with me.
2) Diet and exercise are key. Eat well, lots of veg and healthy food, gets lots of exercise. Even just a long walk really helps. When you find yourself in a pit, change your posture. Stand up, walk around, do the superman pose. Body and mind are very closely linked. Also watch your caffeine intake (this is the one I find the hardest). Sugar highs and lows especially don’t help, eat slow release foods.
3) Talk. Talk to someone, anyone. Sometimes it’s on here, sometimes it’s on the internet, sometimes families, sometimes friends. Doesn’t even have to be about what’s bothering you, just a human connection helps give you some perspective. Also verbalising how you feel sometimes makes you realise how silly what you’re thinking really is.
4) Be kind to yourself. It’s hard, it’s a process, you will have good and bad days and that’s Ok. A stumble or a fall isn’t permanent, pick yourself up, don’t beat yourself up. If you need a day in your pants crying take it and be comfortable with that choice. Then start the road again tomorrow.
5) Keep going. There’s enough drugs and therapies and activities out there to try a new one each week for the rest of your life. Keep going, find what works. It’s an experiment.
Good luck buddy and if you ever need to chat I’m on the end of an PM.
I’ve battled with clinical depression since I was about 12, comes in ten year cycles and gets triggered by events too. Thought I’d pass on what I’ve learned:
1) Do what works. It’s different for everyone. I’ve tried drugs to not much effect, I’ve tried guided meditation, all sorts. I’m a very rational guy and what worked for me was Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, but even then it took two or three tries at finding a therapist I got on with and who knew how to deal with me.
2) Diet and exercise are key. Eat well, lots of veg and healthy food, gets lots of exercise. Even just a long walk really helps. When you find yourself in a pit, change your posture. Stand up, walk around, do the superman pose. Body and mind are very closely linked. Also watch your caffeine intake (this is the one I find the hardest). Sugar highs and lows especially don’t help, eat slow release foods.
3) Talk. Talk to someone, anyone. Sometimes it’s on here, sometimes it’s on the internet, sometimes families, sometimes friends. Doesn’t even have to be about what’s bothering you, just a human connection helps give you some perspective. Also verbalising how you feel sometimes makes you realise how silly what you’re thinking really is.
4) Be kind to yourself. It’s hard, it’s a process, you will have good and bad days and that’s Ok. A stumble or a fall isn’t permanent, pick yourself up, don’t beat yourself up. If you need a day in your pants crying take it and be comfortable with that choice. Then start the road again tomorrow.
5) Keep going. There’s enough drugs and therapies and activities out there to try a new one each week for the rest of your life. Keep going, find what works. It’s an experiment.
Good luck buddy and if you ever need to chat I’m on the end of an PM.
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Otis
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Lovely post, Shmmeee.
Houchens Head
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss. A good friend of mine lost his wife recently about the same age.
Anyway, back in the late '90's I went through a period of depression. I didn't even know why I was always feeling down. Anyways, I went to my GP who prescribed Amitriptyline, a wonder drug at the time. He only gave me a weeks worth, but by the third day, I wondered why I had been so depressed. They were amazing. Anyway, he also put me in touch with a smashing psychologist, an Asian lady, at Gulson Road hospital. I saw her every week for about a year. During that time, she worked out what had caused my depression. It had been the way I was brought up and I had kept my hurt and anger bottled up for decades. (I was now 39 or 40). She convinced me to write down my feelings in notebook form, which I did at first, and it ended up being my autobiography, which I thoroughly enjoyed writing and getting published, although a lot of hurt came flooding back. Incidentally, I now take two Amitriptyline every single day! No, I ain't hooked! It is now used as a wonder pain killing drug (or supposed to be!).
So to conclude my theory... see your GP. DON'T be worried about what they might say. They see this all the time. Accept any treatment they give you. And above all, stay close to those around you. Good friends are hard to find and when you find them, use their friendship as much as they'll allow.
Anyway, back in the late '90's I went through a period of depression. I didn't even know why I was always feeling down. Anyways, I went to my GP who prescribed Amitriptyline, a wonder drug at the time. He only gave me a weeks worth, but by the third day, I wondered why I had been so depressed. They were amazing. Anyway, he also put me in touch with a smashing psychologist, an Asian lady, at Gulson Road hospital. I saw her every week for about a year. During that time, she worked out what had caused my depression. It had been the way I was brought up and I had kept my hurt and anger bottled up for decades. (I was now 39 or 40). She convinced me to write down my feelings in notebook form, which I did at first, and it ended up being my autobiography, which I thoroughly enjoyed writing and getting published, although a lot of hurt came flooding back. Incidentally, I now take two Amitriptyline every single day! No, I ain't hooked! It is now used as a wonder pain killing drug (or supposed to be!).
So to conclude my theory... see your GP. DON'T be worried about what they might say. They see this all the time. Accept any treatment they give you. And above all, stay close to those around you. Good friends are hard to find and when you find them, use their friendship as much as they'll allow.
pipkin73
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Thanks again everyone, I've had a better couple of days and the main thing I found that has helped was the advice to make sure I do one thing a day. Getting up to walk the dog or do some work has helped so much as 1 thing has led to another and by the end of the day I've stayed busy. Just met someone who asked how Julie was, I would have broken down before but managed to explain what had happened and stay strong. Thanks again everyone, the support from you all has been amazing.
lifeskyblue
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I’m glad you have had a better day or two and were strong enough to cope with that question. Don’t beat yourself up if you have a bad day...it may feel like two step forwards one back for a while. Getting out with your dog is a good idea in that you will get exercise and interaction with other walkers.
Hopefully you and other ex pats can have a beer and watch the footy in a while.
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pipkin73
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Just got to the pub to watch the game, lost my dog as a mate has taken her for another walk, poor thing will be knackered lol. Let's hope England keep me smiling.
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covcity4life
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Patriotic dog you got there!
pipkin73
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No short supplies out here mate, loads of cheap beer left my mobile in the bar tonight and never realised til I got home. Most of my pics of Julie etc so was devastated but when I went back they had gave it to my neighbour for me. Life can be hard abroad but we look after each other better.
left my mobile in the bar tonight and never realised til I got home. Most of my pics of Julie etc so was devastated but when I went back they had gave it to my neighbour for me. Life can be hard abroad but we look after each other better.
Astute
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That is the thing about life. Most people are genuine and good. But it is the idiots we notice the most.
Now to work out why most people notice me :woot:
Nick
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Make sure you back it all up but in case.No short supplies out here mate, loads of cheap beer
Houchens Head
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I agree with Nick. Back all your pics up on the cloud.
Nick
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My wife had her phone stolen, had loads of family pictures etc and they were all lost and that's all she was bothered about. Can't imagine how it would be in Pipkins circumstance, get them all on the cloud to be sure just in case. Even if the phone breaks one day, you don't want to lose them!
pipkin73
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Done that today, thanks Nick
pipkin73
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and HochensHead