fellatio_Martinez
Well-Known Member
Yep it's a numbers game. One woman could have a million reasons to reject you but the next woman will have completely different tastes.
Keep going. It’s as much about desensitising yourself to rejection so you don’t come off as desperate as anything else at this point. Don’t put any one woman on a pedestal, just move onto the next one. Don’t think of it as trying to meet someone, think of it as a self improvement process you’re learning from.
I had a trial and used it for the sleep sounds but couldn't get into the other stuffI always just talk to women like they are normal people. Madness I know. Never had any problems. Plus never really worried about it, if it’s not a goer with someone it’s not a goer.
Just fired up the headspace app again yesterday as there was an offer on. £50 for the year. Already feeling better for it, not that I was feeling bad but I was settling into the beginning of a few bad habits again. Arguing on here being one of them.
I had a trial and used it for the sleep sounds but couldn't get into the other stuff
I always just talk to women like they are normal people. Madness I know. Never had any problems. Plus never really worried about it, if it’s not a goer with someone it’s not a goer.
Just fired up the headspace app again yesterday as there was an offer on. £50 for the year. Already feeling better for it, not that I was feeling bad but I was settling into the beginning of a few bad habits again. Arguing on here being one of them.
so you wouldn’t have developed the fear
Been particularly down recently for no obvious reason and need to break out of the spiral. CBT is great for specific thoughts, general feeling like shit for no good reason it seems not so much. :/
I meant I just talk normally to people. Men and women and that’s it. Nights out on the beer are different as it’s known what the end game is if you get chatting but in normal life people can over think it too much.
At least a snake with tits has a decent gag reflex?
You see them on discovery swallowing a whole goat.
Yeah it’s there of course but I just never really worried about it or over thought things. I’ve been rejected way more than not in the past. I do get it if it’s never happened for someone how it can build up to quite a big thing though.
I meant I just talk normally to people. Men and women and that’s it. Nights out on the beer are different as it’s known what the end game is if you get chatting but in normal life people can over think it too much.
Really down today. Finance problems trying to keep this house going on my own so my daughter can get into Finham, seems my ex has convinced her she doesn’t want to go to Finham with her mates she wants to go to Nicholas Chaimberline in Bedworth where she’s moved to. Has told her it’s a better school and she can avoid all the bullies by going there. She’s going to get eaten alive. Feel like there’s a countdown clock to September when we apply for secondaries where I’m just burning cash in the hope she’ll pick Finham when everyone bar me knows it’s not happening. Then I can either move to Bedworth and have a massive commute to work and live in a shithole and not buy my parents house as id planned. Or not see my kids. Wish I’d never got married. Feel like it’d all be easier if I wasn’t in the picture. Life is fucked beyond repair and I’m sick of struggling TBH. Just want it all over with. City are the only thing going well at the moment.
Not looking for sympathy. Just had to get it out there.
Really down today. Finance problems trying to keep this house going on my own so my daughter can get into Finham, seems my ex has convinced her she doesn’t want to go to Finham with her mates she wants to go to Nicholas Chaimberline in Bedworth where she’s moved to. Has told her it’s a better school and she can avoid all the bullies by going there. She’s going to get eaten alive. Feel like there’s a countdown clock to September when we apply for secondaries where I’m just burning cash in the hope she’ll pick Finham when everyone bar me knows it’s not happening. Then I can either move to Bedworth and have a massive commute to work and live in a shithole and not buy my parents house as id planned. Or not see my kids. Wish I’d never got married. Feel like it’d all be easier if I wasn’t in the picture. Life is fucked beyond repair and I’m sick of struggling TBH. Just want it all over with. City are the only thing going well at the moment.
Not looking for sympathy. Just had to get it out there.
Not sure why she would want Nico over finham park?
If push comes to shove, Bedworth isn't that far from finham or coventry. Nothing stopping you seeing the kids.
Aren't there any cheaper options in the same area to down grade?
I know it's easy to say from the outside but whatever the ex chooses to do, you will get through it.
Im in quite a cheap house for where I am. It’s just doing it on one income is killing me.
At the moment we have a 50/50 split cos I can drop the kids to school on my days and my Mum who lives in Earlsdon can pick them up. But if I were dropping them in Bedworth I couldn’t get to Warwick in time for work and it’s a massive trip for my Mum so if she goes there I’d have to give up the 50:50 and see them every other weekend. Which is something I swore I’d never do.
My ex is very charismatic and convincing, part of the reason I stayed for so long, so she’s spun her this story about how if she goes to a school no one knows her at all her current friendship problems will disappear.
The only thing I can think in the short term is move my girlfriend in which she wants but I don’t feel like I do. But it’d massively help with the finances. However she signed a six month lease last month (when we had this convo) so not sure that’s possible.
Part of me just wants to move back in with Mum and Dad, get my finances sorted and go from there but my Mum could make the happiest person on Earth depressed and Od worry for my mental health plus the kids couldn’t be there or my missus really.
I dunno. Just all seems shit. I had this vision of my girls going to a good school and growing up in south Cov like I did in my family home and I don’t think that’s going to happen. I just don’t know where to go from here. Maybe it’s just my expectations.
Divorce is shit.
If your daughter got set on Chamberlaine couldn’t you lift her to catch the train over (or she could catch the 9 across)? The school is right next to Bedworth station if memory serves.
If your daughter got set on Chamberlaine couldn’t you lift her to catch the train over (or she could catch the 9 across)? The school is right next to Bedworth station if memory serves.
Just want it all over with. City are the only thing going well at the moment.
Really down today. Finance problems trying to keep this house going on my own so my daughter can get into Finham, seems my ex has convinced her she doesn’t want to go to Finham with her mates she wants to go to Nicholas Chaimberline in Bedworth where she’s moved to. Has told her it’s a better school and she can avoid all the bullies by going there. She’s going to get eaten alive. Feel like there’s a countdown clock to September when we apply for secondaries where I’m just burning cash in the hope she’ll pick Finham when everyone bar me knows it’s not happening. Then I can either move to Bedworth and have a massive commute to work and live in a shithole and not buy my parents house as id planned. Or not see my kids. Wish I’d never got married. Feel like it’d all be easier if I wasn’t in the picture. Life is fucked beyond repair and I’m sick of struggling TBH. Just want it all over with. City are the only thing going well at the moment.
Not looking for sympathy. Just had to get it out there.
Earlier this year I was loving life, now this corona bollocks has got me struggling to sleep and eat and I feel like I’m getting the flu.
Is it a combination of worries regarding the virus or is there one aspect of it that's causing the worry?
Combination of all of it really. Everyone I try to talk to about is like WAYYYYY HERE’S A MEME
Plus if I’m honest I feel a bit guilty going to Cheltenham last Thursday. Shouldn’t have gone.
To be fair, they are probably just trying to be light-hearted about it and cheer you up.
Fuck this, I am going to make an arcade for people to play on.
Bring back that pool game
Combination of all of it really. Everyone I try to talk to about is like WAYYYYY HERE’S A MEME
Plus if I’m honest I feel a bit guilty going to Cheltenham last Thursday. Shouldn’t have gone.
Combination of all of it really. Everyone I try to talk to about is like WAYYYYY HERE’S A MEME
Plus if I’m honest I feel a bit guilty going to Cheltenham last Thursday. Shouldn’t have gone.
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