SkyBlue_Bear83
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You've already decided what he meant and what his intentions were, truth is you have no idea and are just spouting rubbish.
This has nothing to do with mind reading, do keep up!
I can assure you if someone did this in any major company the best they could hope for is a weeks Diversity training.
Charlotte, delighted to connect. I appreciate that this is probably horrendously political incorrect, but that is a stunning picture!!!
You definitely win the prize for best Linked in picture I have ever seen.
Again, would it have got the same reaction if it was an attractive to her bloke of the same age with the same interests etc?
Put in what position? Maybe I am misunderstanding, he shouldnt have sent it. It wasnt the right place, time or person but when you keep going on about putting her in positions it is as if he has locked her in a room demanding her to have sex with him or something. Is she going to be emotionally scarred from it?
The way you are wording things is an over reaction from this incident.
I can assure you if someone did this in any major company the best they could hope for is a weeks Diversity training.
They are both lawyers, so lets examine this like lawyers would.
First his statement:
One side would argue:
There is nothing to suggest the message is sexist, it clearly is a compliment about the quality of the picture. There are no references to her looks, her clothing, her hair, her smile, her body. Anybody thinking this is anything else than a congratulation on a great quality picture is speculating.
And a few hours ago when I first read it I was firmly on that side. If she found the comment abusive and sexists then she was dreaming (or hoping).
But ...
There's something in his comment that doesn't make sense.
He knows his remark is political incorrect. He says so.
How can a comment on the technical quality of a picture be political incorrect?
On the other hand, a comment on the object in the picture can well be political incorrect.
So my verdict is:
He is clearly commenting on the object - her. Not the technical quality of the picture. It is a sexist remark, and he should apologize.
You've already decided what he meant and what his intentions were, truth is you have no idea and are just spouting rubbish.
Yes.
The position of receiving such a message. One that he openly admits is politically incorrect. You're the one who has several times taken this to a sexual encounter situation, I'm not sure why. Who knows.
Having an opinion that doesn't match with yours doesn't mean I'm over reacting. It's called a debate.
I've heard way worse said between colleagues at work.
And he said it over the internet in a private message
She received a message basically saying she was stunning. Yes it was stupid, I am pretty sure he now knows it was stupid.
Surely she could have dealt with it a bit better by damaging the silly old man's pride a little bit?
I have taken it to the sexual encounter situation because some of the reactions to it are as if that has happened.
So because I don't agree with you I'm spouting rubbish? #slowhandclap
Well they are on dodgy ground.
If anyone who works for me did that we'd have a serious conversation and the best they could hope for is the opportunity not to do it again.
I work with female mechanical engineers. We are on the same pay other than the level we are on. We have a high proportion of bosses that are women to how many work at our place. And most major employers are the same.
The main reason that women earn less these days on average is the jobs they do. Things have changed. If you work somewhere that does differently they need reporting.
Equality has too many rulesif only it was just treat everybody the same no matter what sex, color or religion. That's what I was taught, but seems like politically correct the more rules.
Perhaps he'll mail your LinkedIn page then, if he wants to treat everyone the same...
So because she works for the council she is scum.council scum bites the dust
She received a message basically saying she was stunning. Yes it was stupid, I am pretty sure he now knows it was stupid.
Surely she could have dealt with it a bit better by damaging the silly old man's pride a little bit?
I have taken it to the sexual encounter situation because some of the reactions to it are as if that has happened.
The inference has been that she 'ran to the press' and has been mentioned within this thread.
She posted a comment on Twitter and like more and more stories within the media these days this was how it was picked up.
He then released a statement via a City law message board, which even more people within that line of work would have seen, compare to her Tweet.
His statement was also clearly a load of old shite, taking into account his 'politically incorrect' comment in the original message.
Yet again she's being blamed for this going public. Seems to me he's equally, if not more, to blame.
Widespread,casual,demeaning behaviour directed towards women is a form of social policing, gender control & a hidden form of social violence
No because your argument is weak and based on opinion and assumption
It was a misplaced comment, not a comment that would be universally accepted as offensive. It's a massive overreaction and he's being made an example of for the exact purpose of getting debates like this going.
Really threatening language re acidity in face. And well done for a considered and poignant reply.
No wonder all dating is moving online as apparently this is the only place where it is acceptable to comment on another persons appearance, people are probably too scared to do it in person in case people take offense.
At the end of the day a man is a man and a woman is a woman regardless of what role they have in society, human nature designed us to be attracted to the opposite sex. Personally I don't think it should be a massive issue to give a man or a woman a compliment on there appearance as long as done respectfully.
Next time I get a hair cut or people comment on my beard I'm going to act massively offended if anyone in work mentions it.
Didn't she make it public the moment it is tweeted? I'd say for an intelligent woman she knew it was starting a witch hunt. Funny how she wants a public apology and not just an apology?
Some of her retweets could also be classed as mocking him.
Does it mean what he sent was ok? No it was stupid.
So this isn't an over-reaction?
I'd say she has got exactly the reaction she wanted when posting it and knew exactly how it would be.
This is another example:
Her comment:
:thinking about:
So he's a silly old man and she's an intelligent woman? That's a bit politically incorrect isn't it? And sexist! Right, I'm off to Twitter with a screengrab.
The point is that it is a business site, not a site for women to have to deal with remarks about their appearance. It is unacceptable and unprofessional.
When was the last time you went up to an attractive woman in the street and told her how beautiful she is? Go on, give it a try. I can guarantee that she will think that you are a sleazy creep.
I am just waiting for someone to post that it is fair game to 'touch a bird's arse if you're pissed and she is wearing a short skirt'.
It probably is, the difference is I wouldn't say that and then be offended if somebody said something to me.
It seems to be factually correct though, he can be classed as old and he has been silly with this. She is obviously intelligent and is a woman.
Your portraying him as the downtrodden anti-hero!
He's smarmy and she didn't buy into it.
The "politically incorrect" comment left him wide open. He know what he's doing is wrong. That's the overriding point to me.
Also people making mention of 'this happens in every office', these two don't work together, they're just in the same line of business. So he's made this comment to someone he's got no (or very little) knowledge of.
Yes people do end up in relationship or become fuck buddies in offices, but there are several steps before it gets to this point.
Nope, not a hero. It seems to be her being portrayed as a girl power hero and he is some sort of sex predator.
Why did he make the comment?
When was the last time you went up to an attractive woman in the street and told her how beautiful she is? Go on, give it a try. I can guarantee that she will think that you are a sleazy creep.
I am just waiting for someone to post that it is fair game to 'touch a bird's arse if you're pissed and she is wearing a short skirt'.
I was disagreeing with the comments about it being threatening where it is over reacting and exaggerating.
The point is that it isn't somebody trying it on on Linked In, it is somebody being threatening about throwing acid in faces when it clearly wasn't meant like that.
I think you've misread the message, no one is threatening to throw acid in faces.
The man is writing that the woman has shown acidity (sourness) at the compliment he thought he was making.
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