Otis
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Well you won't find it on here for sure.
Well you won't find it on here for sure.Sadly yes.
Lived in California for 6 months and it was incredible. Really hard to adapt back to normal life again though.
Sorry to hear that.We’ve been back together for the last 6 months or so, got into a fight about money (she’s not been working for a couple of months) and she pulled the trigger again.
Sorry to hear that.
Have you ever thought of using Relate for the both of you?
As skyblueindorset alluded to, it may help in getting to the actual problem she has?
This is the site for the one in Cov. Coventry and Warwickshire | Relate – The relationship people
The most important thing, Schmmeee, is to find out exactly what is (in her eyes) wrong. Only then can you do something about it.
Apparently she just doesn’t love me any more. Says I’m her best mate and a great dad and the sex is amazing, but she doesn’t feel “it”.
What’s worse is she says she figures this out a few years ago when she fell for my best mate. :/
Yeah and let us know the address of your house so we can keep an eye on it for you.You need to get the hell out of here for a bit. It's hard, but it's the best advice I can give having been in a similar situation.
Go and book a flight and fuck off.
Apparently she just doesn’t love me any more. Says I’m her best mate and a great dad and the sex is amazing, but she doesn’t feel “it”.
What’s worse is she says she figures this out a few years ago when she fell for my best mate. :/
Relate worked for me and my missus about 15 years ago where we could air our views without it turning into point scoring, no passive aggressiveness, just honest opinions, sorry to hear it wasn't a great experience for you, shmmeee.We tried Relate last time. Quite frankly is was terrible and did more harm than good.
Same here, it was very tempting to mention summat about the not feeling "it" or the amazing in bed bitGlad somebody else said it. I have had about 4 replies typed out and thought it might not be the time or the place to point it outSame with the bit afterwards about not feeling it.
You have my sympathy but come on admit it, you embellished the bit about amazing sex? ;-)
It's been all about 'her' so far. What are your feelings Shmmeee? Do you still love her after all things considered?
Have events changed your opinion of her? If the sex is great and you have two cute kids and life is not rock bottom financially, then there is a more serious issue here.
You either have treated her like shit too long or there's an affair somewhere in all this.
Don't want to sound harsh Shmmeee but you (both )must feel somewhat isolated now, If I'm correct that you've moved away with work.I’ve probably not been great to her. There’s been bitterness on both sides but I thought we were past that with the fresh start.
TBH I suspect affair. But fuck knows.
Don't want to sound harsh Shmmeee but you (both )must feel somewhat isolated now, If I'm correct that you've moved away with work.
Was that deliberate, to extract yourself from the previous situation.
From experience it sounds past the point of no return(I may be wrong here ).
It really is important now to evaluate hanging on against moving on.
I fear It's time for you to adopt 'Next' attitude .
There will be one out there !!
Fair play to you, Shmmeee. I would have done exactly the same thing. Our kids are everything to us.No mate. Was due to move in September this year but have turned it down now as it would mean not seeing the kids.
I can even agree to stop telling bad jokes if you want.
You should try them with a Russian wife who has a permanent stern look on he face before she's even woken up.Does that go for all of us? I'll tell the wife to get packing!
Would you care to list them please.Sorry to hear you're going through this again, it sounds to me like you're going to be better off apart rather than staying together and ending up resenting each other. While it'll be tough, you're still likely to keep her as a good friend (if that's what you want).
Hope you manage to get through this and you've always got here to ask for somewhat anon advice and despite them being half mad, there's some very wise posters on here!
I'm Mad!!Would you care to list them please.
Would you care to list them please.
I just went back to the very first message in this thread , in which you said "Missus has just told me she wants a divorce. Been together 13 years, married for 4.5".
I'm curious why were you together for 8.5 years before you got married? Seems like maybe you were not that certain you were right for each other from the very beginning?.
Taking your time to get married or not getting married at all, does not mean anyone is less right for each other
Did that last?!? I keep watching that Married at First Sight programme on Channel 4 with a mix of awe and amazement.Better that than a friend I know who knew her husband two weeks before tying the knot.
I told you to keep that schtum!!! Grrr!!!!!!Yeah we were engaged for about five years before we got married but couldn’t afford it. Before that it wasn’t really a priority for either of us but our first kid kinda focused minds and she wanted to have the same name as her daughters. Not sure it says much TBH. Better that than a friend I know who knew her husband two weeks before tying the knot.
I got engaged to my wife on our 10th anniversary. Married after 11 years together. As good as married for many years before thenCorrect.......I married my wife exactly 10 years after our first date.....and now been married for another 10 and counting....
Did that last?!? I keep watching that Married at First Sight programme on Channel 4 with a mix of awe and amazement.
Mind you, guess in the olden days your Dad'd tell you who you were going to marry, and that was that!
Your missus and my missus should get together! Eastern Europeans eh? Sheesh!You should try them with a Russian wife who has a permanent stern look on he face before she's even woken up.
'Zoz that joke?' 'You make joke here?'
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