Just heard a schoolmate had died (1 Viewer)

[oucho]

Aged 33 - same year group as me. Drank himself to death though being a massive pub-going pisshead.

Used to think it was funny how much he could drink, lost contact with him over the years but knew him from aged 11 and we were in the same group of 5-6 lads who start hitting the pubs aged 16 for a few years. Lovely bloke, always good fun and never took life too seriously. Our lives took different paths and I hadn't realised he was in the pub after work every day swilling up to 10 pints a day.

Then in September he loses his job through the inevitable health problems - sirrosis of the liver. Struggled through the winter when he nearly died when his weak constitution was hit by the Aussie flu. Went into hospital 12 days ago and was OK to start with but then went into a coma for 9 days, complete organ failure.

Now his Mrs, who by all accounts encouraged his boozing (not that it's hear fault) has got to tell their 6 year old son that dad isn't in fact at a two week sleepover with grandma, but is in fact dead.

Just feel totally numb - even talking in the past tense about someone who was a big part of my life for a long time. Life's a fucking bastard sometimes.

 

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[clint van damme]

Aged 33 - same year group as me. Drank himself to death though being a massive pub-going pisshead.

Used to think it was funny how much he could drink, lost contact with him over the years but knew him from aged 11 and we were in the same group of 5-6 lads who start hitting the pubs aged 16 for a few years. Lovely bloke, always good fun and never took life too seriously. Our lives took different paths and I hadn't realised he was in the pub after work every day swilling up to 10 pints a day.

Then in September he loses his job through the inevitable health problems - sirrosis of the liver. Struggled through the winter when he nearly died when his weak constitution was hit by the Aussie flu. Went into hospital 12 days ago and was OK to start with but then went into a coma for 9 days, complete organ failure.

Now his Mrs, who by all accounts encouraged his boozing (not that it's hear fault) has got to tell their 6 year old son that dad isn't in fact at a two week sleepover with grandma, but is in fact dead.

Just feel totally numb - even talking in the past tense about someone who was a big part of my life for a long time. Life's a fucking bastard sometimes.

Sorry to hear that mate. Things like this remind you of your own mortality. On the way back from the game today we got talking about friends we've lost. Unfortunately it's inevitable.
All you can do is do the best for your nearest and dearest and try and shield them from this sort of tragedy.

Really feel sorry for his son, sharing time with your kids is the best thing and his dad lost that due to addiction, and he lost his Dad, poor sod.

 

[Kingokings204]

Aged 33 - same year group as me. Drank himself to death though being a massive pub-going pisshead.

Used to think it was funny how much he could drink, lost contact with him over the years but knew him from aged 11 and we were in the same group of 5-6 lads who start hitting the pubs aged 16 for a few years. Lovely bloke, always good fun and never took life too seriously. Our lives took different paths and I hadn't realised he was in the pub after work every day swilling up to 10 pints a day.

Then in September he loses his job through the inevitable health problems - sirrosis of the liver. Struggled through the winter when he nearly died when his weak constitution was hit by the Aussie flu. Went into hospital 12 days ago and was OK to start with but then went into a coma for 9 days, complete organ failure.

Now his Mrs, who by all accounts encouraged his boozing (not that it's hear fault) has got to tell their 6 year old son that dad isn't in fact at a two week sleepover with grandma, but is in fact dead.

Just feel totally numb - even talking in the past tense about someone who was a big part of my life for a long time. Life's a fucking bastard sometimes.

Heartbreaking and I’ve got close friend who drink. Mainly a builder best friend of mine who just is easily led and is caught up in a culture of drinking after work and even lots of cocaine. He is 31 himself. His family has just left him and now he is destroyed but he has created it.

My experience tells me no one tells you to drink yourself to death or whatever it is. In life you make your own choices and you have to deal with those choices. Sadly in this case he has a son and it’s the children who always suffer. They are innocent and helpless in all this.

My heartfelt condolences and enjoy your life and family because one day it all comes to an end. Do your best.

 

[oucho]

Heartbreaking and I’ve got close friend who drink. Mainly a builder best friend of mine who just is easily led and is caught up in a culture of drinking after work and even lots of cocaine. He is 31 himself. His family has just left him and now he is destroyed but he has created it.

My experience tells me no one tells you to drink yourself to death or whatever it is. In life you make your own choices and you have to deal with those choices. Sadly in this case he has a son and it’s the children who always suffer. They are innocent and helpless in all this.

My heartfelt condolences and enjoy your life and family because one day it all comes to an end. Do your best.

Sounds like a nearly identical situation mate. Sorry to hear about it.

 

[bringbackrattles]

Aged 33 - same year group as me. Drank himself to death though being a massive pub-going pisshead.

Used to think it was funny how much he could drink, lost contact with him over the years but knew him from aged 11 and we were in the same group of 5-6 lads who start hitting the pubs aged 16 for a few years. Lovely bloke, always good fun and never took life too seriously. Our lives took different paths and I hadn't realised he was in the pub after work every day swilling up to 10 pints a day.

Then in September he loses his job through the inevitable health problems - sirrosis of the liver. Struggled through the winter when he nearly died when his weak constitution was hit by the Aussie flu. Went into hospital 12 days ago and was OK to start with but then went into a coma for 9 days, complete organ failure.

Now his Mrs, who by all accounts encouraged his boozing (not that it's hear fault) has got to tell their 6 year old son that dad isn't in fact at a two week sleepover with grandma, but is in fact dead.

Just feel totally numb - even talking in the past tense about someone who was a big part of my life for a long time. Life's a fucking bastard sometimes.

My best pal who I worked with for years had a drink problem, then again I was just as bad as we were always in pubs night after night. I cut down though but he continued as if it was no big deal. Anyway he was found in his bed dead after another heavy session, he was in his mid forties. He was a great bloke and well liked and I've never seen so many people at a funeral, it was heaving. He came from a family of alcoholics, and the drink caused their deaths, but none of them had a bad bone in their bodies. I still drink but sometimes I hate the stuff !

 

[Houchens Head]

An old school mate of mine died through drinking to excess. That was years ago. I think he was only in his mid-20's at the time. Very sad. My older brother was / is an alcoholic. I never knew because he was very clever at hiding it. He got through 3 or 4 bottles of wine a night and that was after a few drinks during the day. He's since had numerous strokes, paralysed in a wheelchair and no longer drinks. He took that wake-up call eventually.

 

[oucho]

Was told today that his widow has broken the news to their 6-year old son today. She said it was one of the hardest things she has ever done but that he took it like an angel. Good boy. You suspect he's too little to really understand the enormity of what he's being told. If it wasn't for daddy skulling beer like it was going out of fashion for nearly 20 years, he'd still be around today. Then again, alcoholism is at root an illness so it's hard to be too judgemental.

Me and the lads are talking about setting up a trust fund and contributing the price of a pint each per week to help the little boy in the future, let's see how that goes.

 

[rob9872]

Thankfully none of my close mates but I reckon half my school year are either dead or in prison. I was only in Warwick buthe nan did always say it was a finishing school for delinquents.

 

[Sky Blue Pete]

Such a great idea oucho