Pros and cons of having kids - and not having them (1 Viewer)

ccfcricoh said:

I've always wanted kids but my other half already had one before we we're together and was adamant she was having no more...

It never really became an issue as she changed her mind in the end and we are now expecting "our" first...

No idea what to expect but i suppose that's the point - i suppose you would never regret having kids once they're here but you could regret not having any when its too late...

Expensive mistake to make though i suppose!!!

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Covstu said:

i think things like this need to be thought through. Its hardly getting a dog, having a kid can make a relationship or maybe detract from what currently isn't working. I have seen a few try this and then still break up but with an added complication. Hope it works out for the best though fella

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Covstu said:

congratulations fella. The only advice I can give you is to ignore everyone's advice! No one child is the same, do it your own way as there isn't a wrong!

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Covstu said:

congratulations fella. The only advice I can give you is to ignore everyone's advice! No one child is the same, do it your own way as there isn't a wrong!

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rob9872 said:

Best of luck Pipkin. Wanted to 'like' the post instead but didn't feel right.

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pipkin73 said:

My Mrs passed away on the 8th May and we never had kids as she had polycystic ovaries. We talked about ivf but we never got round to it. Now she has gone i feel so empty but i'm sure if we had a child that would have gave me something to hang on to (a little bit of her still here).
All i can say is if you can have kids then have at least one, as most people i know say they changed their lives for the better and you never know what's around the corner mate.

By the way she was only 45 so not old by any means.

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ccfcricoh said:

I've always wanted kids but my other half already had one before we we're together and was adamant she was having no more...

It never really became an issue as she changed her mind in the end and we are now expecting "our" first...

No idea what to expect but i suppose that's the point - i suppose you would never regret having kids once they're here but you could regret not having any when its too late...

Expensive mistake to make though i suppose!!!

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pipkin73 said:

My Mrs passed away on the 8th May and we never had kids as she had polycystic ovaries. We talked about ivf but we never got round to it. Now she has gone i feel so empty but i'm sure if we had a child that would have gave me something to hang on to (a little bit of her still here).
All i can say is if you can have kids then have at least one, as most people i know say they changed their lives for the better and you never know what's around the corner mate.

By the way she was only 45 so not old by any means.

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pipkin73 said:

My Mrs passed away on the 8th May and we never had kids as she had polycystic ovaries. We talked about ivf but we never got round to it. Now she has gone i feel so empty but i'm sure if we had a child that would have gave me something to hang on to (a little bit of her still here).
All i can say is if you can have kids then have at least one, as most people i know say they changed their lives for the better and you never know what's around the corner mate.

By the way she was only 45 so not old by any means.

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oucho said:

I did think your lad looked a bit shy, didn't realise it was his first game!

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ccfcricoh said:

Is that advice i should ignore then?! Confused already...god help me...

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pipkin73 said:

My Mrs passed away on the 8th May and we never had kids as she had polycystic ovaries. We talked about ivf but we never got round to it. Now she has gone i feel so empty but i'm sure if we had a child that would have gave me something to hang on to (a little bit of her still here).
All i can say is if you can have kids then have at least one, as most people i know say they changed their lives for the better and you never know what's around the corner mate.

By the way she was only 45 so not old by any means.

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richnrg said:

cons: you have to wipe their arses for a few years
pros: they eventually have to wipe yours for longer.

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Otis said:

Why, are the poos bigger?

How much longer per poo are we talking, seconds or minutes?

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pipkin73 said:

My Mrs passed away on the 8th May and we never had kids as she had polycystic ovaries. We talked about ivf but we never got round to it. Now she has gone i feel so empty but i'm sure if we had a child that would have gave me something to hang on to (a little bit of her still here).
All i can say is if you can have kids then have at least one, as most people i know say they changed their lives for the better and you never know what's around the corner mate.

By the way she was only 45 so not old by any means.

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fernandopartridge said:

I've got a 3 month old, it's great.
I don't know if there is anything better than waking up to see a little face smiling at you. Looking forward to him growing up, I think he's the sign of a new era in more ways than one.

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Otis said:

Did you make the play-off final, Pipkin?

Just wonder if that deflected your thoughts, even if just for one day.

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pipkin73 said:

No mate, was thinking about it as I had a ticket being held for me but it was just to soon. Watched it in the bar we met in though and the staff kept bringing me shots out. Was hammered by the end of the game. Watched it with a Villa and Leicester fan and yes it did help with keeping my mind of it for a while.

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clint van damme said:

just saw your post, sorry for your loss Pipkin.
Can't imagine what you're going through.
Don't be afraid to approach your GP for counselling if you're finding it difficult to cope mate.

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Marty said:

I'm 30 and childless, I do want to have children but there's still so much I want to do first. I expect I'll be into my 40's before I have one. Saying that, I could meet someone this weekend and they could be up the duff before you know it.

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clint van damme said:

just saw your post, sorry for your loss Pipkin.
Can't imagine what you're going through.
Don't be afraid to approach your GP for counselling if you're finding it difficult to cope mate.

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Otis said:

And if you don't want proper counseling, come on here and hear people talk rot!

We're always here for you, Pipkin

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pipkin73 said:

Live in Gran Canaria mate, it's a little different out here but I have to say that my friends out here have been amazing. They helped with all the formalities and it's hard to do out here as it's in Spanish and your an expat so the rule's are different. Even the British Embassy contacted me offering help, I guess the courts must have informed them. Friends and family have flown over to help and pay respects to Julie and people have let me cry and let me get angry. Just can't believe the support I have had from the local British community out here. Anyway, back on topic to the original poster, if you can afford to raise a child and your relationship with your Mrs is strong then go for it. At the worst you will have a good time trying and hopefully end up with something that changes your world for the better.

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