chiefdave
Well-Known Member
its horrible isn't it. Going through this at the moment, my Dad has advanced vascular dementia, you end up just waiting for them to die. There's zero quality of life and it just ends up becoming all consuming, I don't do anything now apart from visit my Dad or run around after my Mum, who frankly is more trouble than my Dad despite having nothing wrong with her.Yep....I travelled a 500 mile round trip every month for a few years just to watch my Dad slowly rot into double-incontinent wheel-chair bound vegetable trapped in a "care" home before he finally had the sweet release of death....
A big part of me still regrets not smothering him with his pillow to save his & our pain....... & half my Ma's house!
He had agressive frontal lobe Alzheimers diagnosed at 61. Fucking tragic.
In his more lucid times my Dad has more than once asked me to help him kill himself as he doesn't want to be stuck in a home, that's not a peasant conversation to have.
Makes you question if we're doing the right thing. Medicine is so advanced now we seem to be keeping people alive past the point their bodies can cope with it, I'm not sure I see much benefit to it. At least my Dad has visitors, He's been in there months now and its very rare I see anyone else visiting, so sad.