Mental Health (15 Viewers)

[Deleted member 9744]

I used to enjoy the football but recently it’s become less of a enjoyment and more of a loyalty that I can’t end to break. Deep down I know that if I had no affiliation to a football team I’d probably be a lot happier and a lot less stressed, but how can you abandon a team you’ve been with for years.

I understand how you feel mate. I decide it us just a game when we lose and convince myself it is not important. Of course when we win I feel great.

Do try to find other distractions too. Exercise seems to be the best for raising mood if that is possible. The weather should start getting better soon and that will help.

 

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[MusicDating]

Little bump, hope everyone's doing ok and has a bit of optimism about Spring and that a return to normality is in sight

This didn't get any comments in the General chat, but I wanted to highlight the interview with Jodi where he opens up about the effect of 3 ACLs on his mental health. I'd encourage everyone to watch, as he talks about his stubbornness that stopped him from talking about his problems, but when he did confide in his best mate, he felt a lot better. Judging by the arguments on here, I think a lot of (I assume) men share this stubbornness... I admire anyone that asks for help (in any environment), it's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you want to get better.

 

[shmmeee]

Stress hit me today. That’s a new one. House purchase is dragging on, parents are getting to me, kids back at “school” and all that entails, missus getting pissed off being here so no sex for ages.

Started getting lightheaded and heart racing and all sorts. Scared me a little bit TBH.

Booked next week off work as I need to use up my holiday. Gonna take some me time and eat right, get some exercise for the first time in months.

 

[Evo1883]

Stress hit me today. That’s a new one. House purchase is dragging on, parents are getting to me, kids back at “school” and all that entails, missus getting pissed off being here so no sex for ages.

Started getting lightheaded and heart racing and all sorts. Scared me a little bit TBH.

Booked next week off work as I need to use up my holiday. Gonna take some me time and eat right, get some exercise for the first time in months.

Get yourself sorted mate

 

[Evo1883]

Worth mentioning that we are coming to the end of the S. A. D period with spring coming along so hopefully some of you that may not have been aware you suffer from it, and with lockdown making it worse anyway... You should see an improvement in your mental health over the next few weeks..

Also, in the autumn be sure to take vitamin D supplements, it's pretty vital, most people are deficient and don't know, it directly effects mood, mine was seriously low a few years back supplements really helped my mood

I recommend doctors best which you can get on amazon

 

[clint van damme]

Stress hit me today. That’s a new one. House purchase is dragging on, parents are getting to me, kids back at “school” and all that entails, missus getting pissed off being here so no sex for ages.

Started getting lightheaded and heart racing and all sorts. Scared me a little bit TBH.

Booked next week off work as I need to use up my holiday. Gonna take some me time and eat right, get some exercise for the first time in months.

sounds like a sensible plan.

 

[Sky Blue Pete]

Stress hit me today. That’s a new one. House purchase is dragging on, parents are getting to me, kids back at “school” and all that entails, missus getting pissed off being here so no sex for ages.

Started getting lightheaded and heart racing and all sorts. Scared me a little bit TBH.

Booked next week off work as I need to use up my holiday. Gonna take some me time and eat right, get some exercise for the first time in months.

Well done for taking immediate action to change things. Sorry things are tough at the moment. Don’t be afraid to get help from Gp if necessary

Thanks for calling me out the other day

 

[clint van damme]

Worth mentioning that we are coming to the end of the S. A. D period with spring coming along so hopefully some of you that may not have been aware you suffer from it, and with lockdown making it worse anyway... You should see an improvement in your mental health over the next few weeks..

Also, in the autumn be sure to take vitamin D supplements, it's pretty vital, most people are deficient and don't know, it directly effects mood, mine was seriously low a few years back supplements really helped my mood

I recommend doctors best which you can get on amazon

Just seen this post. If you're taking vitamin D make sure you're also taking a K vitamin (some vitamin D supplements have it added in already).
Vitamin D on its own can cause calcification where you don't want it to.

 

[Deleted member 5849]

Don’t be afraid to get help from Gp if necessary

I've done just that.

Various things have exhausted me, but all this talk of opening up, abolishing all restrictions is panicking me rather, as I see myself being left behind, abandoned, and expected to fend for myself. I keep having nightmares about who will look after those closest to me, can't sleep, am far far more irritable than normal.

I really hope people act with consideration and recognise that stresses during this pandemic come from many perspectives, and that we all need to be aware of them all...

 

[Sky Blue Pete]

I've done just that.

Various things have exhausted me, but all this talk of opening up, abolishing all restrictions is panicking me rather, as I see myself being left behind, abandoned, and expected to fend for myself. I keep having nightmares about who will look after those closest to me, can't sleep, am far far more irritable than normal.

I really hope people act with consideration and recognise that stresses during this pandemic come from many perspectives, and that we all need to be aware of them all...

Yep walk a mile in another’s shoes

 

[bezzer]

My son's close friend took his life on Sunday. He was 19 years old.

My son spoke to him on Saturday and said he was fine; they were talking about meeting up once we come out of lockdown restrictions.

He's heartbroken and is struggling big time. It's difficult to know what to say. He said he feels terribly guilty for not knowing how ill he was.

Honestly, if anyone is having mental health problems, talk to someone.

RIP Oliver.

 

[Earlsdon_Skyblue1]

My son's close friend took his life on Sunday. He was 19 years old.

My son spoke to him on Saturday and said he was fine; they were talking about meeting up once we come out of lockdown restrictions.

He's heartbroken and is struggling big time. It's difficult to know what to say. He said he feels terribly guilty for not knowing how ill he was.

Honestly, if anyone is having mental health problems, talk to someone.

RIP Oliver.

I'm so sorry to hear about this. 19 is no age at all.

Your son cannot blame himself. I can say from experience that on a lot of occasions people that take their own life often aren't the ones screaming and shouting about doing it. He probably had no way of truly knowing. I've generally become more tuned in to when someone is getting their affairs in order, but it isn't always obvious and who's to say he even did that? Wish the best to you and your family, and of course his.

 

[Evo1883]

My son's close friend took his life on Sunday. He was 19 years old.

My son spoke to him on Saturday and said he was fine; they were talking about meeting up once we come out of lockdown restrictions.

He's heartbroken and is struggling big time. It's difficult to know what to say. He said he feels terribly guilty for not knowing how ill he was.

Honestly, if anyone is having mental health problems, talk to someone.

RIP Oliver.

From experience with 3 friends (all ex service) who have took their own life, not one of them said there was a problem and gave no indication of their intentions.. I was chatting to one mate the night before and he was laughing etc seemed fine...

Hope your son is OK, its not his fault

 

[Ccfcisparks]

Just found out I’ve passed 2 more of my chartered accountancy exams. Feels like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders considering it’s all I’ve been thinking about for the last few months. That, coupled with the fact that football is back in a months time is really brightening my outlook on things. Here’s hoping that City win today to make it a double good day!

 

[clint van damme]

Just found out I’ve passed 2 more of my chartered accountancy exams. Feels like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders considering it’s all I’ve been thinking about for the last few months. That, coupled with the fact that football is back in a months time is really brightening my outlook on things. Here’s hoping that City win today to make it a double good day!

Congratulations - well done!!

 

[Ccfcisparks]

Congratulations - well done!!

Thank you mate

 

[shmmeee]

Just found out I’ve passed 2 more of my chartered accountancy exams. Feels like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders considering it’s all I’ve been thinking about for the last few months. That, coupled with the fact that football is back in a months time is really brightening my outlook on things. Here’s hoping that City win today to make it a double good day!

Congrats buddy, this is for you:

 

[Evo1883]

Just found out I’ve passed 2 more of my chartered accountancy exams. Feels like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders considering it’s all I’ve been thinking about for the last few months. That, coupled with the fact that football is back in a months time is really brightening my outlook on things. Here’s hoping that City win today to make it a double good day!

Congratulations PUSB

 

[Ccfcisparks]

Thanks both. As daft as it sounds, this board was the only place keeping me sane. Days I didn’t feel like going for a walk or ringing people this was the only place I had for entertainment

 

[Evo1883]

Thanks both. As daft as it sounds, this board was the only place keeping me sane. Days I didn’t feel like going for a walk or ringing people this was the only place I had for entertainment

Hope your in a good place, despite the match day to and throws we all support city and want what's best for each other

 

[Ccfcisparks]

Hope your in a good place, despite the match day to and throws we all support city and want what's best for each other

Too right mate

 

[clint van damme]

this board was the only place keeping me sane.

Your mental health is in a far worse state than I first thought. Pleas seek immediate help!!

 

[Ccfcisparks]

Your mental health is in a far worse state than I first thought. Pleas seek immediate help!!

I will contact the wisest person I know.

Let me drop CC84Cov a DM now.

 

[Earlsdon_Skyblue1]

Just found out I’ve passed 2 more of my chartered accountancy exams. Feels like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders considering it’s all I’ve been thinking about for the last few months. That, coupled with the fact that football is back in a months time is really brightening my outlook on things. Here’s hoping that City win today to make it a double good day!

Well done mate. That's genuinely great news so you should be very proud.

Please can you now pop over to the Barnsley thread and give some clarity on the accounts!

 

[robbiekeane]

Stress hit me today. That’s a new one. House purchase is dragging on, parents are getting to me, kids back at “school” and all that entails, missus getting pissed off being here so no sex for ages.

Started getting lightheaded and heart racing and all sorts. Scared me a little bit TBH.

Booked next week off work as I need to use up my holiday. Gonna take some me time and eat right, get some exercise for the first time in months.

Schmeee. Sorry to hear that. I don’t have any experience with it to the extent that you get light headed and heart racing etc, but I am running a huge project at work that never seems to end and involved a load of negotiations and dirty tactics that is a huge weight on my shoulders and very high stakes. Found myself struggling to sleep and waking up in the middle of the night etc.

Have you tried mindfulness? Hear me out lol...I’m not a hippy. There’s an app called Headspace and in either 5 or 10 minutes you can practice mindfulness and honestly it really really chills me out. Would definitely recommend - and not only when you get stressed just 5 or 10 minutes every day is a great general habit!

The other thing to bear in mind is that when you’re getting physical or mental symptoms from your body...it’s your body’s way of telling you something is wrong. You’ve just listed quite a few things that are “wrong” at the moment and so it’s not fucking surprising that body is reacting.

Have you read “the chimp paradox”? Really good bookby Steve peters who used to work with Liverpool. He really oversimplifies three sections of the brain into your “chimp” (primitive, fight or flight, emotional part), your “Human” (the one typing this, in charge of logic, rationality, etc), and your “computer” (the part of your brain that learns things from experience that become just instinct and puts you on autopilot when they happen again). It’s a really interesting read but the best bit I got outbid it was...don’t beat yourself up or blame yourself when your brain reacts naturally in a way that’s it’s learnt to over millions of years of evolution. You can’t do anything about it. But what we can do is have our “human” learn to manage it.

Hopefully 3 points today will cheer us all up!

 

[LastGarrison]

I wouldn’t say I’m struggling per se but just in desperate need to spend some time with the lads.

The Missus is great but she’s not the lads. I just wanna sit, have the crack, talk about shit, watch the football and get horrifically drunk whilst eyeing up in any woman who has the ‘temerity’ to come in the bar whilst convincing myself that she would definitely want a piece of a fat 41 year old before stumbling into an Uber and falling asleep in a pool of my own dribble.

Is that too much to ask?

 

[Sky_Blue_Daz]

I wouldn’t say I’m struggling per se but just in desperate need to spend some time with the lads.

The Missus is great but she’s not the lads. I just wanna sit, have the crack, talk about shit, watch the football and get horrifically drunk whilst eyeing up in any woman who has the ‘temerity’ to come in the bar whilst convincing myself that she would definitely want a piece of a fat 41 year old before stumbling into an Uber and falling asleep in a pool of my own dribble.

Is that too much to ask?

Fancy a pint ?

 

[LastGarrison]

Fancy a pint ?

I’d fucking love one!

Just been for a bod around Leamington. A bit of sunshine definitely brightens the mood.

 

[hill83]

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[hill83]

I wouldn’t say I’m struggling per se but just in desperate need to spend some time with the lads.

The Missus is great but she’s not the lads. I just wanna sit, have the crack, talk about shit, watch the football and get horrifically drunk whilst eyeing up in any woman who has the ‘temerity’ to come in the bar whilst convincing myself that she would definitely want a piece of a fat 41 year old before stumbling into an Uber and falling asleep in a pool of my own dribble.

Is that too much to ask?

Along these lines, and I'm probably repeating myself, I'm not sure how I would have coped without being on the PS4/PS5 every night for the last year playing warzone with my mates. A good 3 to 5 of us every night drinking and talking absolute bollocks.

 

[Skybluefaz]

Feeling shite today. The hope has fucked off somewhere into the distance and the grinding down from recent events isn't offset by other positives as I think they usually would be in 'normal times'.

 

[clint van damme]

Feeling shite today. The hope has fucked off somewhere into the distance and the grinding down from recent events isn't offset by other positives as I think they usually would be in 'normal times'.

Could be worse. You could have had C on your doorstep chatting socially distant shit for half an hour like I did yesterday!

In all seriousness, not long now, lockdown will be eased, the weather will be better and the evenings will be lighter.

 

[Skybluefaz]

Could be worse. You could have had C on your doorstep chatting socially distant shit for half an hour like I did yesterday!

In all seriousness, not long now, lockdown will be eased, the weather will be better and the evenings will be lighter.

Quite how that kid has survived all this I'll never know. His poor wife's ears must need a holiday! Better weather would definitely help, just looks so fucking bleak out.

 

[Covstu]

We are doing a lot of work on stress at work at the moment. Workforce is on edge, we have had 3 suicide attempts this month with 1 successful. Sad times when people are in this mindset but people are generally struggling. I find I struggle when I don’t cycle on a Sunday, it just resets my head for the week with 4 hours on my own And I know I will feel it this week. It sounds daft but there are things that help people cope, as LG mentioned we need bloke time as well as family time.
war kills people but this is doing the same through stealth, feels like the nation is cracking Slowly

 

[clint van damme]

We are doing a lot of work on stress at work at the moment. Workforce is on edge, we have had 3 suicide attempts this month with 1 successful. Sad times when people are in this mindset but people are generally struggling. I find I struggle when I don’t cycle on a Sunday, it just resets my head for the week with 4 hours on my own And I know I will feel it this week. It sounds daft but there are things that help people cope, as LG mentioned we need bloke time as well as family time.
war kills people but this is doing the same through stealth, feels like the nation is cracking Slowly

That is really grim Stu. I wonder if now the end is hopefully in sight a lot of what people were keeping a lid on is coming to the surface?

My daughter starts a new job in HR at the uni tomorrow and it's working on a project related to mental health.