SkyBlue_Bear83
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I feel like I'm having a bit of a break down right now
What's up mate? Spill, it might make you feel better.I feel like I'm having a bit of a break down right now
I feel like I'm having a bit of a break down right now
I've stopped shaking now, I think I will be alright. I've moved my counselling session to tomorrowring someone mate. Speak to someone. Here's a few numbers that may help
Samaritans -116 123
CALM - 0800 58 58 58
Sane - 0300 304 7000
I've stopped shaking now, I think I will be alright. I've moved my counselling session to tomorrow
Just being messed around a bit by a girl I've known for a few years, want to call her out on her bullshit but anxious and I'm a bit fumingWhat's up mate? Spill, it might make you feel better.
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She just uses me and takes advantage of and treats me like shit, but then other times she is really nice.
She is very hot and cold with me with no reason as to why
Good luck tomorrow mate.I've stopped shaking now, I think I will be alright. I've moved my counselling session to tomorrow
We have to work together, really closely. And it would feel like a complete failure if this friendship failed or came to an end but I'm close to losing it with her and probably destroying whatever friendship we have.sounds like you'd be better off getting her out of your life if that's how shes going to affect you, even if she is nice at times.
Or maybe give her a final warning to cut her shit or keep out of your life.
I scratched myself yesterday
Mate, it sounds like she's playing games with you. Especially if she's in a relationship. You could really do without that shit in your life.She's stuck abroad at the moment so we were keeping in touch.
And I was surprised (pleasantly) she was messaging me so much tbh, really engaging in the conversations and initiating chats with me and I was helping her with a few things.
But the last week she has gone really funny with me for no obvious reason. Leaving me on delivered and read for days at a time and not answering my questions. And I dunno what happened in the last few weeks to make her go off on me.
And I want to call her out on her bullshit but am scared how the conversation will go or that we will fall out over it. But at the same time I can't keep trying to keep in touch and being given the cold shoulder cause it makes me feel like shit.
Just for a couple of days give her the silent treatment outside of work. If she messages just ignore her.She's stuck abroad at the moment so we were keeping in touch.
And I was surprised (pleasantly) she was messaging me so much tbh, really engaging in the conversations and initiating chats with me and I was helping her with a few things.
But the last week she has gone really funny with me for no obvious reason. Leaving me on delivered and read for days at a time and not answering my questions. And I dunno what happened in the last few weeks to make her go off on me.
And I want to call her out on her bullshit but am scared how the conversation will go or that we will fall out over it. But at the same time I can't keep trying to keep in touch and being given the cold shoulder cause it makes me feel like shit.
She's stuck abroad at the moment so we were keeping in touch.
And I was surprised (pleasantly) she was messaging me so much tbh, really engaging in the conversations and initiating chats with me and I was helping her with a few things.
But the last week she has gone really funny with me for no obvious reason. Leaving me on delivered and read for days at a time and not answering my questions. And I dunno what happened in the last few weeks to make her go off on me.
And I want to call her out on her bullshit but am scared how the conversation will go or that we will fall out over it. But at the same time I can't keep trying to keep in touch and being given the cold shoulder cause it makes me feel like shit.
Friend at work family member 17 committed suicide. So tragic! Shows the hidden nature of this as well as the virus
Morning, how have you been the last few days? Hopefully the guys on this thread have helpedShe's stuck abroad at the moment so we were keeping in touch.
And I was surprised (pleasantly) she was messaging me so much tbh, really engaging in the conversations and initiating chats with me and I was helping her with a few things.
But the last week she has gone really funny with me for no obvious reason. Leaving me on delivered and read for days at a time and not answering my questions. And I dunno what happened in the last few weeks to make her go off on me.
And I want to call her out on her bullshit but am scared how the conversation will go or that we will fall out over it. But at the same time I can't keep trying to keep in touch and being given the cold shoulder cause it makes me feel like shit.
She's stuck abroad at the moment so we were keeping in touch.
And I was surprised (pleasantly) she was messaging me so much tbh, really engaging in the conversations and initiating chats with me and I was helping her with a few things.
But the last week she has gone really funny with me for no obvious reason. Leaving me on delivered and read for days at a time and not answering my questions. And I dunno what happened in the last few weeks to make her go off on me.
And I want to call her out on her bullshit but am scared how the conversation will go or that we will fall out over it. But at the same time I can't keep trying to keep in touch and being given the cold shoulder cause it makes me feel like shit.
I know exactly how you feel as I have been going through something very similar.
The problem is, when you like someone so much, you cannot see the wood for the trees. You'll let someone treat you like shit whereas if it was a mate you were seeing being treated in the same way, you would notice how out of order it was and probably say something about it to them.
Hot and cold women are toxic. Full stop. They fuck with your emotions and push you off your centre. You get to the point where you are emotionally dependent on someone and then become afraid to lose them so don't confront them. I know because I just lost someone I was madly in love with.
I haven't heard from her in 4 and a half months and I miss her like hell. All I can say is that by walking away I took the last bit of control back and restored my dignity a little bit. Yes I would still want her to call me tomorrow, but that doesn't change what happened. She put me through hell.
I would go no contact for a week or so. Nothing is going to change in that time. Give yourself some restbite, pull it together, and think about how you will tackle this. Then formulate a plan.
You can do it, and you are better than the ragdoll she is currently throwing around, even if that is accidental.
Good luck and keep us updated.
Spot on advice and take care SBB83
Theses are very strange times. Breezed through the first 6-7 weeks of lockdown even though I live alone and WFH. I’m fortunate I’ve got great group of mates and family to speak to and have also been kind of seeing a girl (casually) pre Covid for a few months so regular messaging etc. She’s was probably a bit keener pre a Covid, I was keeping a bit of distance as she’d come out of a long term relationship last few months (and is a bit of a wild one) so just wasn’t sure about anything longer term.
Anyway around a week ago I totally hit the wall mentally, not sure if it was lockdown or I had noticed she’d changed (texts less interested not bothered about having a chat etc etc) or a bit of both. Last few days the combo of the lockdown and that have really got to me, can’t get her out my head (when pre Covid I was pretty cool about stuff). Finally, called her out yesterday and just asked if our little thing was gonna continue post Covid, response was pretty much ‘who knows’. Not the answer I was hoping for !!! Now all of a sudden I’m in the middle of lockdown, one of the main things to look forward to in the short term looks like it’s down the pan and still probably an age until bars open...not easy !
Kinda kicking myself for maybe not giving it a proper crack with her earlier (even though deep down there were good reasons why I didn’t which I know I’m blinding myself from currently). Just can’t shake a bit of underlying sadness and feeling low, which has hung around for over a week now
I class myself as a reasonably strong person mentally but this whole thing has been a major head fuck over the past few days so I can only imagine how hard it can be for others, especially those without a support circle (if you don’t make sure you speak to someone...Samaritans etc)
Take care all, struggling to see it currently but know deep down we will get through it !
thanks for listening
Stay strong Steve. This won't last forever. And perhaps the reason you didn't give it a crack with this girl before is because she really wasn't for you but lock down has maybe got you looking at that relationship through rose tinted spectacles.
Cheers mate. And I know deep down you’re spot on...I just wish my heart brain would listen !!! :emoji_bow:
Yes she could be just going through the 7 th week doldrums that Steve is .You've almost got to take yourself out of the situation and try to look at it from an external perspective. Imagine someone being in your position. What would you think about the situation and advise them?
It's incredibly difficult when you like someone and red flags get ignored almost subconsciously. I think relating it to my situation, I never got on with anyone as well as the girl I was seeing, maybe it is the same for you. Because of this you lie to yourself a bit and put them on a pedestal. You're scared to lose them so also become unable to stand up for yourself when they're not treating you right because you think any kind of resistance will push them away.
I think it is important to remember to be yourself. It sounds like you are doing 60% and her 40% right now.
If you want to try and keep it going then you have to try and chill a bit, but that is hard and unnatural. On the other hand it sounds like she is playing games a little bit and knows you are on the hook, so I would be very cautious.
Take a bit of time for yourself man, I would.
Yes she could be just going through the 7 th week doldrums that Steve is .
I think it's possible we all are .
I know I've found it harder this week .
I’ve had that after a bad break up but it lasted a couple of years and ended up ruining potential healthy relationships and generally ruining my self-esteem.Been struggling the past week or so.
Cannot stop thinking about what has happened and playing out 100 different scenarios in my head.
Haven't heard from her in over 4 months and I just feel like I never will again. Thought about making contact with her friend to try and recon a bit but think that might be more risk than it's worth. Certainly not gonna reach out directly at this point.
Fucking sucks and I cannot think about anything else.
Been struggling for the last couple weeks I think.
Cannot stop thinking about what has happened and playing out 100 different scenarios in my head.
Haven't heard from her in over 4 months and I just feel like I never will again. Thought about making contact with her friend to try and recon a bit but think that might be more risk than it's worth. Maybe I need to give it more time as she probably has only just got through her divorce. Certainly not gonna reach out directly at this point.
Fucking sucks and I cannot think about anything else. It's almost one year ago I met her now. Absolutely devastated.
Just been watching the Prince William documentary on BBC 1 regarding football and mental health.
Really enjoyed it and I think all men can take something from it.
Also think Prince William is down to earth and a very good ambassador to have
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Haha.... this is true. But he does look like he will make a good King. Skipping Charles would do the Royals a big favourAs down to earth as you can be when you're part of the most powerful family in the world and in line for the throne.
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