This is a quite a patronising approach TBH. It’s normal especially for men to want to offer a solution to a problem given to them. Simply saying “examine your thinking” is a cop out, OK I’ve examined and think it’s great what now?
We are at a point in racial justice where it’s not easy to see the next steps, I don’t think castigating people who ask where next as cowards or lazy or worse racists is the right approach.
Social justice movements need to be kinder. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
I didn't mean to be patronising, so I'm sorry it came across that way. I haven't called anyone a coward or a racist, and I don't think anyone who gets asked if they're unwittingly part of the problem should assume that's how they're being viewed. No-one's being accused of anything they should be terrified of. Every single protest movement is accompanied by hordes of bystanders who say they would have got involved if only it was packaged in a more friendly or sanitized way, and then offer token support after the fact, when someone else has done the hard work for them. Lord knows I've done that enough times. I'm just not sure if that's going to move the needle on something as big as racial justice, so you'll have to forgive me for making you feel uncomfortable.