oakey
Well-Known Member
On a different tack schools are very aware of the need for safeguarding now but it can be very tricky when you see a girl, for example, dressing and acting in, what can tactfully be described as a "trashy" way. Define the problem and try to enlist parents. How do you tell her mum who dresses or acts the same? This becomes a kind of class/race culture argument. We can dress how we like, speak how we like etc. Maybe the girl is being given too much freedom or maybe parent is at work, ill, caring for relatives etc. Girl then acts like this with older boys. Who is in the wrong? The boys or the girl? The parents? We all know boys are like bees round a honey tree when such a girl seems to be up for it. If the boys are Muslim and treat their own sisters as PAs to supply them with pens, lunch, do you suspect them of being involved in the same abuse? These boys know they cannot touch girls from their own community and some of them are tempted to go with the white girls. It's a big problem and schools have little clue how to handle it.